Last weekend at a BBQ (and by BBQ I mean an outdoor party where everyone was sweating) there was a woman I hoped I would never see again. I tried to avoid eye contact with her and pretend I didn’t see her (don’t judge), but near the end of the party I looked to my left and there she was.
Crap! I had to talk to her.
never rarely avoid people, but this woman is like a walking “Cool Facts” app that you wish you hadn’t downloaded. No matter what the topic, from marriage, to kids, to why the Botox she uses is better than what others use (seriously?), she has to share her opinion.
You probably know someone like that. We all do. Those are the friends you take a little longer to answer when they call or text. They’re the ones who are so exhausting you have to refer to your list of excuses to avoid getting together with them. (Am I the only one with a list like that?)
As I drove home from the party I thought about everything this know-it-all woman is missing by having to be right all of the time. These are the top three that came to mind:
1. Good resources.
Web sites, news outlets and blogs are filled with valuable resources to help grow a business, improve relationships and prove that we’re better parents than we think we are. A know-it-all doesn’t want to read or hear about anything that can teach her more than she already knows (or thinks she knows).
2. New opportunities.
Whether it’s meeting a new circle of friends, attending a business seminar or partnering with another business owner, a know-it-all is stubborn and won’t do anything differently. They don’t realize that by closing themselves off to new opportunities, they’re getting in their own way of success.
3. Relationships and business contacts.
A know-it-all is more comfortable staying in touch with a small group of business owners whose businesses haven’t grown in years. These are the business owners who think social media is a fad that will go away sometime soon. Instead of aligning herself with other business owners who could help her expand her business and explore new markets, she stays stuck in the past. She’s the flip phone user in a sea of smartphones.
When you focus on learning new things, listen to others, and expose yourself to new ways of doing business, it’s amazing how much you can grow, both personally and professionally.
Unfortunately, not everyone knows that.